I typically get requested which metropolis I like extra, now that I cut up my time between New York Metropolis, Harlem to be precise and Miami Seaside. It’s a tough query to reply as a result of I really like them each for various causes. To not way back I wrote a weblog publish explaining my reasoning for transferring to Miami Seaside from Harlem. It was a fruits of issues however principally the pandemic that spurred it. It was a tough time for me, alone in my house for a number of months. I even spent a birthday in lock down. I wanted house and contemporary air and packing all my issues into two suitcases and blindly transferring to Miami after securing an house in throughout a New Years Eve journey was a turning level for my life. However let’s get into the true motive you’re right here. You need to know the distinction between these two wonderful cities and I’m right here to provide the solutions, or at the very least my opinion on the matter.
ALL ABOUT THE BENJAMINS
I’ll begin with the place I believe most individuals ought to begin when contemplating transferring to New York or Miami…the cash. Once I was working as a Physician of Bodily Remedy in Manhattan, it took me about 5 years to achieve a wage of 100K from a beginning wage of 65K contemporary out of graduate faculty. That was as a result of I hopped round rather a lot and that enabled me to extend my wage faster than staying at one place for a number of years. That’s only a gross revenue although and most of my cash went to hire, scholar loans and payments. A 100K gross wage doesn’t equate to being wealthy in New York Metropolis. At greatest you’re thought of center class if you wish to break it down that method. Although I had a excessive wage, I used to be nonetheless residing pay verify to pay verify. At one among my bodily remedy jobs, I solely obtained paid as soon as a month. Are you able to think about that stress. If one thing out of the blue got here up financially, I used to be panicked. I discovered to dwell with power stress and excessive nervousness however the commerce off was that I used to be lastly making the sort of cash I’d solely ever dreamt about. I wouldn’t have been ready to try this in Miami however the price of residing in Miami is far decrease than New York.
These excessive incomes salaries simply aren’t obtainable in Miami except you’re in very particular and area of interest professions. I discover that individuals who transfer to Miami are already established and making the sort of cash they need of their perspective fields and/or they’re able to do business from home. Now, so far as my pretty new profession as a Full Time Content material creator, the cash can also be completely different between New York and Miami. New York primarily based manufacturers and PR corporations know that cash talks and are fast to pay for the content material they need. Figuring out that fee ensures the outcomes they or their purchasers need to attain. Miami is a special beast. In Miami, it’s extra concerning the look than the verify. Some folks simply need to be seen at sure sorts of prestigious occasions, as an alternative of being paid to publish about stated occasion. It’s been stated that lots of the content material creators in Miami are already prosperous, whether or not it’s household cash or a previous profession, so the cash doesn’t matter as a lot.
Hopefully, you’re selecting up what I’m placing down. So it’s positively been tougher for me to get fee from Miami primarily based manufacturers and PR when they’re so used to creators doing issues without cost. Fortunately, there was an enormous inflow of New Yorkers within the content material creation sector who additionally moved to Miami through the pandemic and all of us got here with the identical cash issues mindset. Miami principally caters to way of life manufacturers as a result of it’s a journey vacation spot the place resorts and eating places are the primary sights and income mills for the town. Whereas New York encompasses every little thing from magnificence, to spirits to style. Fortunately, native Miami jobs are a small proportion of my earnings and I nonetheless get a fare quantity of New York Metropolis primarily based jobs being that almost all of my viewers relies within the northeast. So if incomes an even bigger wage is your purpose, New York is certainly the place you need to be however you’re going to should make a commerce off for high quality of life.
QUALITY OF LIFE
I 100% have a greater high quality of life in Miami. Miami wins that one arms down. I discovered that my nervousness is increased in New York. To the purpose the place I felt like I wanted to be on medicine and one even begged for it. There wasn’t anybody explicit factor about metropolis life that prompted my nervousness however a myriad of the excessive stress work surroundings, the quick paced motion of every little thing from commuting to relationships, the noise and at last the brutal and soulless winters. Though I lived in New York Metropolis for over 15 years, I by no means obtained used to how miserable the winters had been and the way lengthy they lasted. Winter appears to go on endlessly and there wasn’t a lot to do however be indoors. I’m the sort of lady that thrives within the solar and there’s simply one thing about seeing a palm tree with lush inexperienced leaves glittering in opposition to an ideal blue sky that simply does one thing to my spirit. The seasonal melancholy that may assault me each winter in New York was ruthless. I hated that I by no means obtained to have a good time my birthday in Could in a brief gown as a result of it was STILL chilly.
The price of residing in New York finds new methods to shock me each time I’m again for a go to. The value of meals is extortionate and why are the taxes so rattling excessive however the trains and the streets are filthy? Lease is excessive however I can’t management my radiator warmth. There’s all the time somebody enjoying bachata at 7am or a home dispute at midnight for the complete neighborhood to listen to. I’d gotten actually used to the noise in New York Metropolis till I grew to become a full-time content material creator and was spending extra time at dwelling filming YouTube movies. It obtained so dangerous that I’d should get up at 6am to movie as a result of by 10am the neighborhood can be too loud. That’s after I knew, one thing needed to give. I couldn’t discover peace. Even now as I’m typing this in my Harlem house, there’s a loud banging from some development and somebody is blaring 12 Play by R. Kelly on the radio. Why in 2024 are we nonetheless listening to R. Kelly? Opposite to what folks could take into consideration Miami Seaside, it’s fairly quiet, even throughout Spring Break. Hell, I don’t even know when Spring Break is as a result of most of that motion is in South Seaside or South of fifth Road and I’m miles away from that. I assumed I’d miss the seasons however I don’t. I can stroll to the seaside any day of the week in 5 minutes and sit out on my patio watching the solar rise every morning. I can journey my bike for miles on the boardwalk. Miami is reallllly clear too, like realllllly clear. There are folks out cleansing as quickly because the solar comes up. For there to be no state taxes, I don’t understand how they maintain it so clear. However I’m right here for it. This one goes to Miami the place leisure is the approach to life.
WORK LIFE BALANCE
Like I stated, leisure will not be a way of life, it’s thee way of life in Miami. All the things is finished a bit of slower. Nobody is in a rush to go wherever or do something. For it to be an enormous customer support city, typically that may push a Sort An individual to insanity nevertheless it has it’s perks. I discovered in a short time that if you happen to’re on time in Miami you’re fairly early and issues are nonetheless being arrange. If you’re on time in New York Metropolis, you’re on time or perhaps even a bit of late! Nothing in Miami ever begins on time and that positively took some getting used to. I discover that my work life stability in Miami is far simpler than in New York and I believe that merely has to do with geography and climate. It’s all the time heat in Miami so I can exit with associates any time of yr. Household and associates are extra apt to go to me for high quality bonding time. Work appears to be simply as necessary as leisure in Miami, so I can shut off from work when it’s executed and never really feel the FOMO that I’d inevitably have after I was in New York. If Miami is leisure, New York is work and there’s nothing flawed with that.
I used to be busy after I was in New York Metropolis making an attempt to make it. I used to be making an attempt to safe the subsequent stage in my occupation. In the event you aren’t transferring fast sufficient in New York Metropolis, you might be getting left behind. That’s the mentality on this work targeted metropolis and for the time I lived right here, that motivated me and pushed me to stage up in each of my careers. It’s a extremely aggressive surroundings right here, even if you happen to’re simply competing with your self. As I’ve gotten older, safer in my occupation and extra clear on what’s necessary to me at this stage in my life, I believe I might be capable of obtain the sort of work life stability in New York as I’ve in Miami. It might nonetheless, take much more work, particularly in relation to nourishing friendships within the colder seasons. Miami is available in with one other win for a greater work life stability. I imply, there’s an precise seaside you’ll be able to swim in…no method New York was successful this one.
CULTIVATING NEW ADULT FRIENDSHIPS
Talking of cultivating new friendships, it’s a lot simpler to do in New York. I might have been extra apprehensive to maneuver to Miami if I didn’t have already got a small community of associates already there. I had additionally gotten used to telecommunicating with associates & household who’d moved away through the pandemic. So bodily being close to somebody was not a requirement for friendship. Most of my friendships are with individuals who don’t take it personally while you two haven’t spoken shortly. If you lastly do communicate, you simply choose proper up proper the place the you left off. Individuals’s priorities change in life as they get older and I don’t take it personally once they do however residing in a spot the place folks trip can have it’s disadvantages. Lots of the folks I meet in Miami are simply visiting or there for a short time for work. So I’m pleased to have had very long time associates and work acquaintances in Miami to lean on. I wouldn’t recommend transferring to Miami alone if you happen to don’t know anybody there. It’s a lot simpler to make new associates in New York. Most individuals who dwell in New York Metropolis, particularly those that are from New York…by no means depart! I discover this notably true amongst folks from Brooklyn. You should have a pal for all times. Positive they received’t have a drivers license however who wants that when you may have the practice! There are additionally much more cultural occasions, social gatherings and alternatives to fulfill folks in New York than there are in Miami, particularly if you happen to’re Black. New York, right here’s taking a look at you for extra new associates.
FOR THE CULTURE
Now, this one could ruffle some feathers however there’s no place like New York Metropolis in relation to range and the sheer vary of issues to do to have a good time the tradition. There’s Juneteenth in Fort Greene Park. There’s first Saturdays at Brooklyn Museum. There’s the West Indian Day parade down the parkway. There’s tons of events, concert events, rooftop shindigs, BBQs, boat rides and a lot extra that facilities Blackness in New York Metropolis. There’s a wealthy Black Historical past and neighborhood in New York Metropolis throughout all of the boroughs and it’s felt. Have you ever ever swag and surfed with 200 folks Black and Brown folks? It’s actually one thing and I do know that feeling and comradery doesn’t exist wherever else on the earth prefer it does in New York Metropolis. After all there’s a neighborhood in Miami as properly nevertheless it’s not on the size of New York Metropolis. Once I must be round my folks, I merely come again dwelling. Once I need to have a good time Blackness, I come again to Harlem. We Black folks, are few and much between, particularly in Miami Seaside. Many of the Black folks I do know dwell on the mainland of Miami correct and additional north. So if you happen to’re coming to Miami searching for a really wealthy Black cultural scene like that of New York Metropolis, you’ll be disillusioned. Now, Miami does have it’s issues, just like the weekends at Pink Rooster and an enormous Caribbean neighborhood nevertheless it’s onerous to search out that sort of vibe in Miami on a bigger scale. It’s all the time and endlessly New York for the tradition.
DATING & RELATIONSHIPS
After getting requested which metropolis I like extra, New York or Miami, the comply with up query is normally how is my relationship life in Miami in comparison with New York. The reply is similar for each…abysmal. Relationship in Miami is simply as dangerous as relationship in New York. There are a number of minor variations although. There’s a slight drawback for me in the way in which that I’m not the specified bodily choice for a big majority of males in Miami. The gold commonplace of magnificence in Miami appears to be racially ambiguous or Latina with lengthy wavy hair and a few type of physique augmentation. Now I’m not saying that’s what each man is searching for however that’s what lots of girls in Miami seem like thus what lots of males come to Miami searching for. However I’ve managed to fulfill nice guys in Miami via associates of associates. Truly a lot of the guys I’ve dated whereas residing in Miami, truly dwell in New York or different locations. It’s a bit of tougher assembly males in Miami once more as a result of it’s extra of a trip place and also you meet lots of people who’re simply passing via.
I’ve had higher luck with males who dwell in Miami however not Miami correct, they’re within the suburbs or outlaying cities. New York is a special sort of hell in relation to relationship and that’s as a result of there are simply too many ladies. The lads in New York know that and what one girl received’t do, there’s a lady inside a block radius who will. I really feel like males in New York are by no means prepared for a relationship or one thing severe till they’ve their excellent job, their excellent wage and have sowed their oats throughout each borough and are close to loss of life, so now they’re able to cool down so as to be their caretaker. That was a joke, nevertheless it was partly severe. New York is a employees metropolis not a lovers metropolis for my part. Once more, I’ve met some nice guys in New York as properly, however the relationship pool for girls truly searching for dedicated relationships is tiny. So it’s a lose lose scenario both method. My recommendation can be to go to a bible belt state, discover a man and convey him with you if you happen to resolve to maneuver to New York or Miami. And that’s that on that.
That is the story of two cities and what I take into consideration every. I really like them each for various causes and I in all probability received’t ever be capable of resolve which metropolis I really like essentially the most however for now, I don’t have to decide on. I can have them each.
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Monroe
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